Orgasm is an extremely complex involuntary physiological reaction that recognizes a certain variability in its expression (in other words, they can present themselves differently, in different people).
Achieving pleasure during intercourse ( whether coital or masturbation ) is not limited to a sexual or genital event , but can be better defined as a set of neuropsychological processes induced by different forms of physical, mental, emotional and environmental stimulation. As unusual as they may seem, multiple orgasm and simultaneous orgasm may be some of the possible manifestations of sexual climax .
The Basics: What is an Orgasm and How to Recognize it
Orgasm is the maximum expression of sexual excitement which follows the psychological and physical stimulation of the erogenous zones and sexual organs .
From a physiological point of view, orgasm consists of a complex of involuntary and short-lived neuro-muscular reactions which in men hesitate in ejaculation , while in women they involve a series of rhythmic , deep and powerful perivaginal contractions .
Also called climax or climax , orgasm manifests itself as a powerful sensation of physical and mental pleasure , often likened to an electric shock or explosion, at the height of the erotic tension built up during the sexual experience. Male and female orgasms are controlled by the involuntary (or autonomic) nervous system.
Multiple Consecutive Orgasms During the Same Intercourse
Multiple orgasms are orgasms that occur consecutively, within minutes, from continued or renewed sexual stimulation.
Especially women can benefit from this experience or rather have the potential to experience it, if the context is favorable and, above all, if they wish : in men, the refractory period limits this possibility.
What is the Refractory Period
The refractory period is the phase of the male sexual response in which, after an orgasm, the body does not allow the possibility to proceed with the stimulation and immediately have another one. In other words, it is not physically possible for a man to continue sexual intercourse and have a second orgasm a few seconds after having had a first one, with relative ejaculation. The duration of this “pause” essentially varies according to age, state of health and habits.
In the 1960s, Masters and Johnson (the first to apply the scientific method to the study of human sexuality) estimated that 14-16% of women had multiple orgasms.
Two things should be noted :
- Some women have a longer than average refractory period or simply become too sensitive for continued sexual contact. As a result, they may not experience or desire multiple orgasms. This is completely healthy and normal.
- On the other hand, some men , especially those under the age of 30, have short refractory periods and can orgasm multiple times within minutes. This is also healthy and normal.
All Women Are Potentially “Multiorgasmic”
In the course of their studies, Masters and Johnson (the first to apply the scientific method to the study of human sexuality) showed that men experience a refractory period after orgasm during which they are unable to ejaculate again in the short term ( variable duration from individual to individual and according to the circumstances); only after passing it will they be able to undertake a new sexual relationship. In women, the resolution phase does not involve a refractory period: this makes them capable of reaching a new orgasm a short distance from the previous one, at any moment of the resolution phase, if subjected to a sexual stimulus adequate to prolong the pleasure.
Note : not experiencing a multiple orgasm depends on many variables. In any case, not having one orgasm after another during sexual intercourse does not make it dysfunctional and, on the other hand, having more orgasms in a row does not mean being more efficient in intimacy; if it happens, it means that the attitude and conditions are suitable for the multiple orgasm to occur at that moment.
What To Do To Have Multiple Orgasms
Multiple orgasms can be achieved with both coital intercourse and masturbation.
An indication to try to have more consecutive orgasms is to sustain the excitement phase so that it is always high. In practice, if a first orgasm has already been reached, the stimulation should be resumed soon (or continued), possibly varying the positions, intensities and methods.
As explained in the general article on orgasm ( which we recommend reading to understand its physiological bases), we witness the progressive increase of the tension produced by the sexual stimulus up to the limit level ( plateau ), beyond which it is possible to reach the peak of Pleasure. In this phase, the vascular congestion of the genitals reaches its peak and allows the continuation of sexual intercourse. The plateau has a variable duration both between different individuals and in different experiences experienced by the same person. If the stimulation that maintains the sexual tension is reduced or interrupted or unpleasant interferers take over, the plateau can involve itself in the resolution phase, bypassing the orgasm.
To achieve a multiple orgasm, it is advisable to understand what excites you the most, so the advice to take the time to get to know your body is always valid. The most important point, however, is to approach this experience with the utmost serenity, without expectations or attitudes of judgment towards oneself.
To consider : Attempting to achieve multiple orgasms correlates with the risk of overstimulation. In other words, after an orgasm, continuing stimulation can be uncomfortable and even painful because the genitals become temporarily oversensitive.
Multiple Orgasm: Not to be confused with Tantric Orgasm
To be clear, in multiple orgasm the first climax is reached, so there is an explicitly short period in which one is not having an orgasm and, for continued or renewed stimulation, another climax occurs shortly thereafter. This consideration allows to distinguish the multiple orgasm from the tantric one.
Simultaneous Orgasm: What is it?
Simultaneous orgasm means reaching sexual climax together with the partner, at exactly the same time or within moments of each other.
On average, it has been estimated that a couple orgasms at the same time once in every three sexual intercourses.
Simultaneous Orgasm: Not to be confused with Mixed Orgasm
Sometimes, people confuse simultaneous orgasm with mixed orgasm, which is when you evoke an orgasm from two different erogenous zones at the same time (e.g. clitoral orgasm + anal orgasm).
Reaching Orgasm Together with Your Partner: Let’s Bust a Myth
The simultaneous orgasm is often interpreted as the maximum expression of complicity and understanding . In reality, it is a stereotyped concept, supported by little scientific basis. Most people want to orgasm at the same time as their partner, as it has always been depicted on TV and in movies as the climax of the sexual experience. However, as much as some people enjoy climax synchronicity, simultaneous orgasm is not a realistic goal to aim for , especially when considering the broader meaning of sexual experience.
How Achievable Is a Simultaneous Orgasm Really?
If we consider only the physiology of orgasm, it should be noted that the consequential phases of the sexual response cycle – which, in short, we remember to be: 1) arousal phase 2) plateau, 3) orgasmic phase and 4) resolution – have different times in the men and women (note: the time it takes to reach orgasm varies not only between genders, but even for individuals).
Posing the expectation of simultaneous orgasm, as something that absolutely must be achieved, goes beyond experiencing sexuality as something natural and instinctive. In the same way as the multiple one, placing oneself rigidly towards this experience can be frustrating, as well as feeling urged to slow down or speed up performance by objecting to reaching orgasm as the ultimate goal of sexual intercourse. Conversely, experiencing an orgasm at different times than your partner’s can be fun and rewarding at the same time, as it allows you to explore each other’s natural rhythms and allows each to fully absorb the orgasmic experience. As a guideline only, those who take the longest to reach an orgasm should set the pace: